When one person gets pregnant it seems like everyone around you becomes pregnant! Almost  like when I got my Ford Explorer I noticed everyone else around me had one too. But here’s the difference… I don’t want another baby.

At least not anytime soon, if at all.

yeah, you read that correctly. And that’s why I ask the question, does that make me a lesser mother?

Im one hell of a mom. At no point have I ever thought I wasn’t cut out for it. My son is brilliant, kind, well mannered. & that’s because my husband and I strive everyday to make sure he is that way. I know if I were to ever have another child they would be the same way.

But I don’t want to. 

I grew up with 4 other siblings and we all LOVED each other and grew up pretty close. I enjoyed having siblings and a live in playmate. Like any other kid with siblings you always, kind of, wonder what it’s like to be the only child. 

I enjoy traveling, probably a little too much, My husband loves to travel as well. And it’s tough enough with one child. -fun fact at the age of 3 you have to pay FULL PRICE for a plane ticket.- anyways, we also enjoy going and doing spontaneous things with Tank (our son for those of you who are new) am I saying that would all stop if we had another one? No. In Fact I’m sure we would make sure it didn’t. But it would become very difficult.

My husband is fantastic at his job and it’s noticed. To be as young as we are and knowing there is growth for our future, we don’t want to hinder it in any way. I love where I am in life with my jobs. I coach 2 sports I adore, I give private lessons, & I teach 3 days a week. Our son is in private school and is on a great schedule.

What happens if we throw another little person into the mix? We start over. Does that make us selfish, no it makes us mindful.

what others don’t understand is that having a another child doesn’t just affect my life, but my husbands and our son.

Tank is spoiled, yep, and I’ll admit it. But I spoil him with my love and affection the most that I can. As does his dad. When he’s older and wants to be involved in sports (or whatever other extra curricular activities) I want him to be able to take off and run with it. I want him to go to every camp, do every clinic, play on the most expensive team. Without hesitation. I want him to have the best childhood he possibly can. I don’t want to share cuddles with another baby, I don’t want Tank to think at any point that he is on the back burner. I want him to always know he’s my number one boy.

Im sure eventually he will ask for little brother or sister, but we have cousins that are close in age. Also, I will point out all the things that would change if he had one.

Does that make me a lesser mother?

No. I’m an amazing mom & my husband is a fantastic father, but we are that to our one child. And for now, that’s all we want. 

Disclaimer:

if my husband and I found out we were pregnant we would know it was in Gods plan and that it was supposed to happen, regardless of what we thought. I’m a strong believer in “everything happens for a reason”